Religious and moral studies tell us that the role of parents is to ensure that their child/children become adults who belief in God, has good moral sense, be good to others and contribute to the betterment of society and the world. Traditionally, the father is the breadwinner and the mother is the homemaker; the roles of both parents were spelt out clearly.
But, in modern day, with both parents working outside the home, the roles are not clearly stated and sometimes role reversal happens. Although role reversal helps to eliminate gender stereotyping or gender bias, would there be any issue of gender/sexual identity in later life?
Sunday, January 31, 2010
Thursday, January 28, 2010
'A Big Little Life'
New entry, April 4, 2011:
This is Barley, a white lab. :)
She is the latest addition to the dogs in my family home. I love dogs, maybe because I came from a family of dog lovers. When I was growing up, we used to have at any one time ~ 4 dogs. My stepmom loved alsatian; dad loved lab and great dane.
Since I can't have my own dog at the moment, I took this pic to cheer me :)
Entry posted on Jan 28, 2010:
'A Big Little Life' is a book that I am currently reading which is a memoir of a joyful dog by Dean Koontz (who is apparently famous for his bestselling thrillers). Since I am not a fan of thrillers, I havent read any of his books until I got this one. Reading the heartwarming memoir made me think that
... a dog's life must be really 'authentic' because a dog is a person's best friend and its love lasts more than a lifetime. A dog brings fun, pure love and affection to its owner and never asks for anything in return. Read the reviews on this book at the link below.
Reading this memoir reminds me of my family dog many years ago, 'Scooby'. Scooby was a great dane and he was a very special dog. He is the only dog (among the 3 or 4 we had then) that was allowed in our house and he enjoyed the privilege of walking around our house. He is especially attached to my brother, who took him for walks and bathed him. He was indeed a very special dog:-)
http://books.google.com/books?id=ZrmKPQAACAAJ&sitesec=reviews&source=gbs_navlinks_s>
Monday, January 25, 2010
Favourite songs
I have included my all time favourite and inspiring songs and story in the side bar. You can click on the link and play them as background song for easy listening while reading my blog. Enjoy...
Sunday, January 24, 2010
Engaging the brain
Brain and how it works have always facinate me. The saying, 'if you don't use it, you will loose it' is indeed very true.
Writing stimulates thoughts; the act of putting pen to paper or finger to keyboard engages our brains. To write we have to think.
In my view, what better way to engage the brain than to write a journal/blog as a collection of our thoughts. Writing and reading it thereafter, helps us reflect on the happenings in our life and put our life in perspective. It can be for pleasure and self-guidance/learning.
Keeping a journal/blog can be very rejuvenating to the soul. To read more about journalling and its benefit, go or copy the link below:
http://www.infed.org/research/keeping_a_journal.htm
Writing stimulates thoughts; the act of putting pen to paper or finger to keyboard engages our brains. To write we have to think.
In my view, what better way to engage the brain than to write a journal/blog as a collection of our thoughts. Writing and reading it thereafter, helps us reflect on the happenings in our life and put our life in perspective. It can be for pleasure and self-guidance/learning.
Keeping a journal/blog can be very rejuvenating to the soul. To read more about journalling and its benefit, go or copy the link below:
http://www.infed.org/research/keeping_a_journal.htm
...fatty liver and detoxing
I found out recently that I have fatty liver, ie. my liver is not functioning at its peak and apparently is the reason why my weight went up 5kg! This is bad...
... I searched for information on how to improve liver's function and finally decided to go on a 2-week liver detox program at the local Ayurvedic Centre. The program consists of medication and body massage to hasten the elimination of toxins. The detox program was rejuvenating; I feel less tired and lethargic at the end of the day now. Doing yoga stretches and walking on my rebounder are my daily exercise routine. This light routine suits my lifestyle at the moment...
... I searched for information on how to improve liver's function and finally decided to go on a 2-week liver detox program at the local Ayurvedic Centre. The program consists of medication and body massage to hasten the elimination of toxins. The detox program was rejuvenating; I feel less tired and lethargic at the end of the day now. Doing yoga stretches and walking on my rebounder are my daily exercise routine. This light routine suits my lifestyle at the moment...
Monday, January 18, 2010
In search for the meaning of life...
If one live authenticly, that is being attuned to one's soul (soul-centered), one would have found the real meaning of life or the purpose of living.
To read more, go to the following links:
http://www.thesouljourney.com?a_aid=5b864299
on authenticity...
http://www.thesouljourney.com/spsample.shtml
To read more, go to the following links:
http://www.thesouljourney.com?a_aid=5b864299
on authenticity...
http://www.thesouljourney.com/spsample.shtml
Sunday, January 17, 2010
So Much Distrust...
The other day, while sitting in a waiting room, I heard the sounds of two people shouting and one sounded like she is defending herself. Later, in the treatment room, I asked the person attending to me, what happened out there earlier? I was told that there were some issues of distrust.
The same situation happened to me
... late last year (minus the shouting). I was visiting a friend and when I left her place, she called me to ask whether I remembered some stuff she showed me earlier. I replied yes and I said she had put them back into the box she took from. She claimed that she couldn't find the box and asked me whether I remembered where she put it? To which I replied, I didn't notice where she put it. I told her that she may have misplaced it and asked her to look in everyroom. Later, she said that she knew who took it and I asked her who did she suspect? Since I was the last person visiting her, I asked her did she suspect me? Her reply was, "I am tired, I will tell you later" Her reply shocked me! She could have replied that I am not a suspect instead of having me wondering why on earth would she suspect me??? I wrote her a message telling her what I think of her taking me as a suspect. The next day, some friends came over to her place and guess what???They found the box of stuff! Reflecting on the incident, should I forget about it and continue to be her friend or cease all contact?
Why are there so much distrust among people, even between spouses, family members, friends and people one meet everyday? What would you do if you are in such a situation? Do you:-
a. cease contact with such person
b. advise the person to value relationship above all and be rational
c. get away and stay in a monastery (where there is no distrust or greed)
Third option is tempting but for the time being, I'll go with the first one.
The same situation happened to me
... late last year (minus the shouting). I was visiting a friend and when I left her place, she called me to ask whether I remembered some stuff she showed me earlier. I replied yes and I said she had put them back into the box she took from. She claimed that she couldn't find the box and asked me whether I remembered where she put it? To which I replied, I didn't notice where she put it. I told her that she may have misplaced it and asked her to look in everyroom. Later, she said that she knew who took it and I asked her who did she suspect? Since I was the last person visiting her, I asked her did she suspect me? Her reply was, "I am tired, I will tell you later" Her reply shocked me! She could have replied that I am not a suspect instead of having me wondering why on earth would she suspect me??? I wrote her a message telling her what I think of her taking me as a suspect. The next day, some friends came over to her place and guess what???They found the box of stuff! Reflecting on the incident, should I forget about it and continue to be her friend or cease all contact?
Why are there so much distrust among people, even between spouses, family members, friends and people one meet everyday? What would you do if you are in such a situation? Do you:-
a. cease contact with such person
b. advise the person to value relationship above all and be rational
c. get away and stay in a monastery (where there is no distrust or greed)
Third option is tempting but for the time being, I'll go with the first one.
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Are we resilient enough?
New entry (5 Jan 2011)~Buddhist perspective on suicide:
"Someone who commits suicide does so not out of self-hatred but because of thinking that it's a way of escaping a greater suffering."
However, "one is not escaping anything, because death is just a transition to another state of existence. So it would be better to try to avoid the suffering either by endeavoring to solve the problem in the here and nor, or, when that is not possible, by changing one's attitude toward this same problem."
Entry posted on 6 Jan 2010:
People have different perspective on the meaning of life and love. The following story made me wonder why some people would give up on life so easily (including those who took their own lives) without trying every possible means.
"One night John (not his real name) was awaken from his sleep
... gasping for breath and felt a sharp pain at his heart. He rushed to a 24-hour clinic and was informed that it might be a minor heart attack. The next morning, he went to another doctor to get a second opinion. The doctor confirmed it and wrote a referral letter to be admitted to the hospital for further check-up.
When it was confirmed by all that he did have a heart attack, John was in a state of a shock. He had no major illness or any health problem so far. He rushed to prepare his will and added his wife's name in his personal bank accounts. He thought he will die soon. His wife, on the other hand, advised him to seek treatment so that his condition will be controlled (like any sane human being would do). To his wife's surprise, he said that he doesn't want to spend that much money for an angioplasty procedure to clear the blockages. He rather die than to seek treatment. His wife was saddened by his perspective on life and asked him, "Isn't being alive and living a healthy life more important than anything?" His wife asked him what about the children? His answer was, "Oh, you can take care of them" That day, his wife made a promise to herself that she will live a healthy life and will not abandon her family in anyway."
"Someone who commits suicide does so not out of self-hatred but because of thinking that it's a way of escaping a greater suffering."
However, "one is not escaping anything, because death is just a transition to another state of existence. So it would be better to try to avoid the suffering either by endeavoring to solve the problem in the here and nor, or, when that is not possible, by changing one's attitude toward this same problem."
Entry posted on 6 Jan 2010:
People have different perspective on the meaning of life and love. The following story made me wonder why some people would give up on life so easily (including those who took their own lives) without trying every possible means.
"One night John (not his real name) was awaken from his sleep
... gasping for breath and felt a sharp pain at his heart. He rushed to a 24-hour clinic and was informed that it might be a minor heart attack. The next morning, he went to another doctor to get a second opinion. The doctor confirmed it and wrote a referral letter to be admitted to the hospital for further check-up.
When it was confirmed by all that he did have a heart attack, John was in a state of a shock. He had no major illness or any health problem so far. He rushed to prepare his will and added his wife's name in his personal bank accounts. He thought he will die soon. His wife, on the other hand, advised him to seek treatment so that his condition will be controlled (like any sane human being would do). To his wife's surprise, he said that he doesn't want to spend that much money for an angioplasty procedure to clear the blockages. He rather die than to seek treatment. His wife was saddened by his perspective on life and asked him, "Isn't being alive and living a healthy life more important than anything?" His wife asked him what about the children? His answer was, "Oh, you can take care of them" That day, his wife made a promise to herself that she will live a healthy life and will not abandon her family in anyway."
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
Social Being
New entry, April 5, 2011:
I read about a person who felt alienated because of his dissability ~ turned to the internet and now is connected to thousands of people like him :))
Entry posted on Jan 5, 2010:
I am a social being. Unlike Robinson Crusoe, I like to be in the company of other people. Not that I depend on people but it's nice to have someone to chat with or talk to. However, often I have to be on my guard and be careful with whom I talk to, lest they misconstrued my meaning. Each of us have our own perspective on life or how we look at problems. I think it is sometimes better to just listen without being judgmental or trying to analyse every word that is being said...
I read about a person who felt alienated because of his dissability ~ turned to the internet and now is connected to thousands of people like him :))
Entry posted on Jan 5, 2010:
I am a social being. Unlike Robinson Crusoe, I like to be in the company of other people. Not that I depend on people but it's nice to have someone to chat with or talk to. However, often I have to be on my guard and be careful with whom I talk to, lest they misconstrued my meaning. Each of us have our own perspective on life or how we look at problems. I think it is sometimes better to just listen without being judgmental or trying to analyse every word that is being said...
Monday, January 4, 2010
Why Authentic living?
It all started when I came across a quote by Socrates, "an unexamined life is not worth living" some time ago. Since then I have been going on a soulful journey, reaching within myself to know who am I(?) and to search for the meaning of life, love and truth... Have I found it yet?
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